How did you feel when you first started the coaching programme?
I was bored, frustrated and feeling stuck. I felt I was never going anywhere and it was just really demotivating because I felt like I couldn’t do anything. It was about not knowing how to change things.
What was your job like at that time?
It was very repetitive, very boring. There was a lack of training and development opportunities. And I didn’t have a good relationship with my boss or with my colleagues. I was doing something that I had no interest in and it had no job satisfaction.
Part of the main thing was that it was a company in the commercial sector which I didn’t want to be in. There were only a small range of tasks which were not challenging. I remember I would literally sit there with my chin on my hand and once my colleague passed by and commented on how bored I looked!
What kind of person would you say you were you back then?
I was all over the place, more disorganised and often feeling muddled up. For example, when I did that particular goal setting exercise with you, the first time I did it, it was massive! There was so much stuff on it. Then when I did it again two years later, it was much more focussed with only two bits on it.
Nowadays, things I’ve done recently are all a lot more focussed. I would say I’m 100% more focussed now.
What made you decide to have coaching?
I was feeling stuck in a rut and very disorganised in my mind. I felt like I couldn’t see what to do and I needed someone to guide me.
What happened when you first started the coaching?
I think I was a lot more clueless then. I wanted to get help and put it all in someone else’s hands. Since then, I’ve taken on more responsibility, learned to gradually help myself more and I learned to use the tools from the coaching. I’ve become more confident.
What were the first coaching sessions like?
I learned how to envision an ideal for what I wanted. Then, it felt like it was all a fantasy. I thought I could never achieve that. Other people might be able to but not me.
What was your coaching journey/experience like?
It’s been so challenging. I’ve learned so much and I am a much stronger person now. I did a job that I didn’t like. I had a period of job hunting and temp working. Now, I am tougher and can stand up for myself now.
I now know what I have learnt from these experiences and why they happened to me!
I worked with my crazy boss so that I could learn to forgive people and learn to stand up for myself. I also learned how to become more efficient and prepare for anything! Leaving my job and temping, I learned that I can survive hard times and keep going and put myself forward for rejection again and again to get what I want. I learned how to survive on little money and budget, which I used to be terrible at. I learned not to care what people thought of my job situation. Temping, I have learned to be very flexible and adaptable and working with kids at the college I have toughened up a bit and learned to not care if they don't like me or what I tell them! I also learned that even when someone seems tough or like a bully it is because they are going through something themselves (so many kids like this) and that really I am very lucky to have the upbringing and opportunities I have had. So you see, I have to admit that you were always right about things in the end.... and what is more I am glad about everything that has happened!
How have you progressed emotionally and mentally?
Actually, I was on anti-depressants for a long time. I am now nearly off them. My doctor has helped to slowly decrease them and soon I shall stop altogether. I am never going back to them!
I’ve since learned there are other ways to deal with things.
Back then, I would have procrastinated for weeks to get something done. There was big fear of failure which stopped me doing things. Now, I just do it. I am a lot more focussed.
How do you feel about your current job?
I am learning a lot more and I’ve got a lot more opportunities. It’s good to put forward my own ideas in the team. I am much braver about that. And in taking the initiative.
I would say that I am happy at work, about 8 out of 10, on a good day.
I have the best boss in the world! Recently, she said ‘I really like your ideas and creativity’. This is so important to me and such a change from the way I was treated in the past.
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